Focusing on the children when divorcing over the holidays is vital to provide emotional stability, minimize conflict, support co-parenting, and create positive memories. Most importantly, ensure that children continue to feel loved and cared for during a challenging time in their lives
Here are the top five things that can help kids adjust over the holidays after a recent divorce:
Open and Supportive Communication: Maintain open and supportive communication with your children. Encourage them to share their thoughts, feelings, and concerns about the holiday season. This can help them feel heard and understood.
Consistent Planning: Plan the holiday schedule in advance and maintain consistency between both co-parents. Having a clear, well-communicated plan reduces uncertainty for the children and helps them know what to expect.
Maintain and Adapt Traditions: Preserve some of the familiar holiday traditions that your children enjoy, as this can provide a sense of continuity and comfort. Additionally, consider introducing new traditions that are unique to the post-divorce family dynamic.
Cooperation with Co-Parent: Whenever possible, collaborate and cooperate with your ex-spouse or co-parent. A united approach to the holidays, even if separated, can reduce stress for the children and provide a sense of stability.
Emotional Support: Offer emotional support to your children throughout the holiday season. Let them know that their feelings are valid, and that it's okay to experience a range of emotions during this time. Ensure they feel loved and secure in both households.
Holidays are a special time and you can help your children adjust more effectively to the holidays by creating a more positive and reassuring experience for them.